When my son was diagnosed with autism nine years ago, I began to think in nevers.
Not right away. But more over time.
Now as a typically very positive person, it felt strange. It felt unlike me.
But, that’s how the people around us spoke about autism.
Your son will never talk. He will never ride a bike. He will never make a friend.
He will never have a normal life. He will never live independently.
Never, never, never.
With each evaluation for services, benefits and placements, the nevers stacked up.
Talk about sad. That way of thinking messed me up big time. And I’m pretty sure it still happens a lot today with newly diagnosed children.
I no longer think that way. Now I look at all the things he can do. And may do. And hopefully will do. And if something does end up being a never, well, that’s ok too. He has limits and acknowledging those are healthy.
But the possibilities far outweigh the nevers.
Yesterday he went to the airport to practice flying on an airplane.
He rode a tram. He went through security. He went on an escalator. He waited for what felt like years during a lightning delay. He boarded the plane he buckled his seatbelt.
I never thought it was possible. Boy did he prove me wrong.
Switch your way of thinking. It will change everything.
PS. Look at those smiling eyes!
