Ready to instantly feel less alone by reading plus size pregnancy confessions?
The growing social media trend, “We Listen and We Don”t Judge” is so powerful—it creates an opportunity for people to share their thoughts without fear of criticism.
Concerns about being judged or misunderstood often hold thoughts back, even though they are valid and absolutely deserve acknowledgment.
We’ve compiled candid plus size pregnancy confessions parents have shared, along with reminders that your feelings are valid and your journey deserves respect.
Common Plus Size Pregnancy Vents
Repeat after me, “We listen, and we don’t judge!”
“Sometimes I pretend I feel kicks even when I’m not sure it’s real.”
The wait to feel those first kicks can feel endless for anyone, but it can be even harder when you know it might take longer to notice them during a plus size pregnancy.
Pretending can be a way to bridge the gap—a way to connect to your baby while waiting for those flutters that, for most, are undeniable.
If you’re in this phase, you can try other ways to feel connected, like talking or singing to your baby, gently placing your hands on your belly, or focusing on their heartbeat during appointments.
Every pregnancy is different; those real kicks will come in their own time.
“I like that people can’t tell I’m pregnant because it means I don’t have to deal with strangers touching my body without permission.”
People often assume everyone wants their pregnancy bumps noticed and celebrated, but for some, not having a visible bump can feel like a relief. Avoiding unsolicited belly touches and invasive questions is a surprising perk of flying under the radar.
While some find comfort in not showing right away, others want their pregnancy to be acknowledged.
Both experiences are valid!
For many who enter pregnancy with a visible belly, it’s common to take longer to show a bump than the timelines shared in traditional weekly pregnancy updates.
Understanding the variety of plus size pregnancy belly shapes and sizes can help set realistic expectations for what you may or may not experience.
Explore resources tailored for your body, like our week-by-week plus size pregnancy breakdown, to feel informed and supported—no matter when your bump debuts.
“I’m annoyed by how limited plus size maternity clothing options are, but honestly, I’m a little relieved to save money since my clothes still fit.”
The lack of plus size maternity clothing options is beyond frustrating. It’s completely valid to want that classic stretchy maternity band!
Yet, the high price tag on maternity clothes can make skipping them a bit of a silver lining. Many find their regular clothes, like leggings and flowy tops, last well into pregnancy, saving money and hassle.
With that said, if you still want that plus size belly band or gorgeous maternity gown, we’ve got you covered—literally. Check out our top plus size maternity picks to find styles that work for your body.
“I’m so tired of trying to find a provider who won’t judge me that I’m considering sticking with my ‘okay’ OB.”
The truth? Settling for a provider who is “okay” is often a survival strategy when finding someone better feels overwhelming.
But you deserve more than just “good enough.”
You deserve care that’s respectful, compassionate, and size-inclusive.
We understand how hard it can be to find a provider who looks beyond your weight. So, we’ve created a resource with tips and key questions to guide you in finding a size-friendly care provider.
Since we listen and don’t judge, we understand if you decide to stay with your current provider. If you’re facing fatphobia in your care, we also have helpful resources for patient advocacy.
“Seeing the number on the scale climb makes me cringe, even though I know it’s part of pregnancy.”
Society’s obsession with weight loss can make this time even more challenging. Especially when weight gain is a natural and expected part of pregnancy!
There’s also so much pressure to “not gain too much,” especially for those with a BMI over 30. Pregnancy weight gain guidelines can feel confusing and even triggering.
It’s okay to feel uneasy when the scale goes up, but remember—you’re doing what your body needs to grow your baby, and that’s incredible.
Now is the perfect time to examine your relationship with your body and the scale. It can be empowering to connect with a Health At Every Size© focused nutritionist to help address any history of dieting, especially if you’ve had an eating disorder.
And as we’ve shared, connecting with a size-inclusive care provider is essential.
“I skip prenatal yoga classes because I’m scared I’ll be the only plus size woman there.”
It’s tough to walk into a space where you feel like you might not belong, especially when your body isn’t always represented in those spaces. But you should feel welcome and supported, and inclusive yoga classes do exist!
Finding a class that celebrates all bodies can make a huge difference—not just for your physical health but for your mental well-being, too.
The Plus Mommy Podcast episode Fitness for All: How to Find Joy in Movement offers great tips on discovering size-friendly fitness spaces.
That said, we’re all about judgment-free support here. If staying home feels better for your mental health, that’s absolutely okay. There are plenty of prenatal YouTube videos you can watch in your living room.
“I’ve always avoided cameras, so the idea of maternity photos makes me uncomfortable.”
Not wanting to take maternity photos is a common plus size pregnancy confession. Many parents feel self-conscious about documenting this special time, and that’s completely understandable.
That said, your pregnancy deserves to be celebrated in a way that feels right for you—whether it’s a whimsical photo shoot, something unique to you and your partner, or even a simple bathroom selfie.
Read that again: whatever feels authentic to you is what matters most.
For inspiration, check out these plus size maternity stories and tips.
Also, consider following the hashtag #plussizepregnancy on Instagram for more real-life examples. And while you’re there, follow our Plus Size Birth account for gorgeous photos and helpful educational content!
“I’m embarrassed to admit that none of the postpartum recovery kits I’ve seen would actually fit me, and it makes me feel like my needs don’t matter.”
It’s upsetting how many postpartum products are marketed as one-size-fits-all when they clearly aren’t designed with plus size bodies in mind.
You deserve supplies that fit and support you because your recovery is just as important as anyone else’s.
Thankfully, there are plus size postpartum resources available, and most medical facilities have what you’ll need. To feel prepared, consider asking your care provider ahead of time about the equipment and supplies they offer—and advocate for anything extra you might require from labor and delivery to postpartum.
“I know my size doesn’t define my parenting, but I worry others don’t see it that way.”
It’s hard not to feel the weight of others’ assumptions when society often ties size to ability. These judgments can feel isolating and heavy.
Parents come in all shapes, sizes, and abilities, and being a great parent isn’t about how easily you can get up from the floor—it’s about the love, care, and attention you give your child.
You know your heart, your strength, and your ability to show up for your baby in the ways that truly matter.
Learning to set healthy boundaries with those who make you question your magnificence can help you protect your peace and embrace your power as a parent.
Let’s Build a Judgment-Free Zone
Every pregnancy and postpartum experience is unique, and your thoughts and feelings are valid.
By sharing these plus size pregnancy confessions, we’re creating a world where we listen, support, and uplift each other—without judgment.
Have you had a pregnancy or postpartum thought you’ve felt too judged to share? Let us know in the comments or join our community on Instagram. You’re not alone!
